Posts tagged Parenting

One step down the path

It’s late and it has been a great day with the kids and Mr. Spirit.  And I was able to get in much-needed research.  I have read and read that I just need to step back and think about what I read before I know what is true for me on my path.

I have read about the wonders of child-birth and the stages of the female life.  And think this is defiantly something I will look in to some more.  I knew being a woman was special and powerful and now I am learning how.  I loved being pregnant and would love to have just one more child but if I don’t I will be happy with that.

I know that I will raise my daughter to rejoice with her changing body and not be shamed because she got her period.  I do think that her and I will be using cloth pads it just seems to be the right fit for me and I hope for her.

Tomorrow I hope to research about the spiritual growth in boys/men as well because I have two sons and I can’t leave them standing at the curb.

In an earlier post I talked about a blessing jar that I was going to do for New Years so I thought I would share it with you fine people (if there are any out there that is)

Make a blessing jar:

Into a vase, jar, or bottle (which symbolizes protection), put:

-a small bag of soil (for abundance)
-a coin (for prosperity)
-a fabric bag of salt (for purification)
-a crystal (for vision)
-an arrowhead (for guidance)
-a tiny fabric bag of herbs (for grounding)
-left over candle (for focus)
-a cross (for balance)
-a feather (for freedom)
-a clipping of hair from each family member (for unity)
-an old key (for opportunity)
-a small mirror (for truth)
-a piece of red paper (for memory)
-a small fabric bag of raw rice (for fertility)
-a ring (for love)
-a rune stone (for communication)
-a shell (for choices)
-a small fabric bag of loose tea (for awareness)
-a small folded fan (for healing)
-a rubber band (for flexibility)
-a letter that contains this list and what you hope to accomplish this year, sealed inside an envelope (for happiness)

You need not have everything on this list, select what is important to you.

Seal the jar with the lid, or cover the bottle/vase with a piece of fabric and a rubber band or string. Place your blessing jar either just inside or outside your front door until next New Year’s Eve.

Now I would and a prayer before I sent it out and make sure my intent was on what I was placing in the jar.

I think this is going to be a simple yet powerful thing for me to do.  It’s going to be one of the first magical things I do that isn’t about food. LOL Mr. Spirit doesn’t get it but he is supportive of it so that makes me happy.

I am also hoping to honor the goddess on the full moon that night and just jump in with both feet. I am not sure what I am going to do with the full moon and it’s a blue moon yet but maybe something as simple as a blessing and maybe starting my BoS.  And charging some crystals I don’t know.

The cleansing I was going to do was simple, sadly I live in a bible belt state and in a trailer park so I am careful what I do outside and this is something I can do outside without much problem.  And frankly I like it because it’s simple I think that’s how things should be is simple.

So here is the blessing I am going to do.

Pretty much I am going to go outside and fill a bowl with cool water from the hose and then say

Substance wasted, substance spoiled, now redeemed. Seeing thyself in substance undefiled, forming thyself a new from this frail substance gathered and revived

I am going to do this in the morning and then again in the evening.  I think this will renew my spirit for the new year nicely I might change the words a bit. But I like them I may need to add at least to them, if I do I will share with you guys.

I also plan on sharing what goes in my blessing jar as well.  Mr. Spirit thinks I should leave out the rice well we will see on that one. HeHe

This trip that I am on is almost like starting over because I let it lapse for so long and I hate that I really do.  I let life and depression get in the way and I hope to not let that happen again.  I hope that as I get my Spiritual self back together that it will lead to all the parts of me getting back together and on the right path.  I seem to be able to handle mom mode pretty good but even there I am not being all that I can be and I hate that.

So tomorrow I am making a deal to do one thing more than I normally to declutter (sp) one area of the house and find on object to use in ritual, and I am to do one more thing with each of my children for fun.  And for the spiritual part of me I need to meditate at least 20 minutes tomorrow and focus on that and clearing and centering myself.  This I promise myself and I hope to get done tomorrow.  I know I can do it.  Maybe I will even make a pie tomorrow!

Until tomorrow.

Blessings,
Spirit

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Quick update 12.27.09

Well things are pretty much back to normal the kids love their toys and a low tech Christmas worked out great! Autumn loves her toys as well. We have some new ideas for what to do next year and we know we only have another year or so with Mr A and Santa and I hope to enjoy them.

Mr R was great though in how happy he was it was great listening to him go Santa came over and over. It was great.

Other than that it’s been nice, I need more sleep but Mr. Spirit is helping a ton. He has cooked and cleaned and wiped butts for me. Man I am lucky.

I have spent time researching all kinds of things. But I have my New Years plans made mostly.

We are going to order Pizza and have root beer floats and movies and games. These are the family plans my spiritual plans are I am going to make a blessing jar for the home for the up coming yearn and do a spiritual cleansing for the new year as well.

Now for the full moon which happens to be a blue moon I don’t know what I am going to yet maybe something simple that is in my everyday life.

My spiritual path is leading me in new places the last few days I have read and learned how wonderful it is to have a period and I should be proud and not ashamed of it. I plan to research this more and pass it on to my daughter. I have also found some blessings I want to do I will post about them once I do them and share how they went.

Also in the last few days i have been talking with other people about astral travel and orbs. I have learned I want to learn more about both and have learned that what I believe when it comes to orbs has brought me closer to a christian friend.

Well that’s about it for now I am sure I will be back later tonight while I don’t have children needing me.

Blessings,
Spirit

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CDN rocks!!!!

No more freaking out. I know how I will handle my oldest and this lost book. I got some great tips on http://clothdiapernation.com you should check it out those mama’s know everything from diapers, to parenting, to cooking, to crafts, and well just about everything else. It is not just a mama board there are some dads there too. And we talk about so much more than diapers and babies…though we love them. So to CDN mama’s Thank you!!!! You rock thanks for the help

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Have any tips for a mother

I feel like I have let my oldest down he has lost a book that isn’t his and just doesn’t seem to care to find it. He pretends to look for it rather than just look for it and it’s a hot topic in this house.

I don’t want to be upset with but I am.

I feel like I let him down, how can he not care about this how can he not understand that he needs to find it and return it to the school. Even if we pay for the book (which will probably have to do) it’s still not at the school because they have to order it and some other child is going to miss out on reading it.

How do I get him to understand how important it is he finds it and returns it? How can I get him to care? What did I do wrong to make him think that it’s just ok not to care?

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It’s the memories

It’s the memories…I need to keep telling myself this and stop getting sucked into the need to give my children everything and feeling bad because they don’t get as much as the other kids. Fact is they get what they need and we made great memories tonight and we have plans to make more.

This has always been my goal as a mother but yet I feel like a failure because I don’t give them the newest and the best of everything when it first comes out.

I have this thing lately of simplifying and getting low tech toys for the children. And well I love it. My father got Mr. A legos for his birthday and him and Mr. Spirit sat and played with them for hours. Mr. A still plays with them for hours alone. Mr R is happy with a box and he is four and all he wants to do is make memories.

So as I get ready to head to bed yet again I remind myself that with yule and christmas around the corner that it’s the gifts that matter and it doesn’t matter if I give them tomorrow or christmas the but memories they make.

I hope that tomorrow that the boys will love making the play dough and playing with it. I look forward to making it with them. Something so simple.

Be Blessed,
Spirit

PS I am not proof reading this nor did I proof read the other post I will do them tomorrow when my brain is fully working.

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